Alesandra Madison encountered her husband employing AI in their partnership in late 2024. She had longed for her “nightly kneeling ritual,” which led him to seek advice from ChatGPT on how to administer discipline. The AI recommended a dual punishment of composing 100 lines while maintaining the kneeling position. Despite having explored kink with her husband for 15 years, this AI-driven method was unprecedented for them.

Madison, 44, hailing from Los Angeles, now perceives AI as a vital enhancement tool for kink practices, providing new insights into their relationship. AI is increasingly recognized as a dynamic influence in BDSM, offering a distinctive space for trust and dialogue free from judgment.

A user on the r/SubSanctuary subreddit remarked on the benefits of utilizing AI for better self-understanding as a submissive, emphasizing AI’s adaptability and constant accessibility. While some find it appealing, others critique AI dominants as “shallow entertainment” or “hazardous.”

As discussions surrounding AI intensify, platforms such as Joi AI, Character.AI, Replika, and Soulmaite present AI-enabled BDSM chatbots. These services enable users to investigate diverse dynamics, with certain sex workers like Alix Lynx and Jenna Starr permitting their images for these platforms. Developers strive to produce apps for immersive and intelligent role-play dialogues. Oxy shop, a retailer of BDSM gear, now features an AI-powered “BDSM chat” for individuals seeking dominatrix encounters.

Carolina Bandinelli from the University of Warwick observes that AI chatbots create a venue for expressing sexual fantasies, empowering users to design and shape their ideal dynamic, illustrating the fantasy intrinsic to human-AI interactions.